Reacting is when we don’t take time to pause before we speak resulting in often saying things we don’t mean out of protecting ourselves from harm and pain. This can be helpful in times of danger, but most of the time we are not in danger and only think we are, so it is not very helpful for the most part to react.
Responding, on the other hand, is when we make time to pause and give ourselves time to listen to the wisdom of the moment, tuning into our being and seeing what wants to emerge. Pausing will save you so much time and drama. It does take some discipline and patience. It also takes listening between the lines. Making time to listen between the lines and then respond to the situation after a pause results in a much healthier and mature engagement in navigating our way through life.
Funny thing is that it is usually the very thing we are reacting to that we want the most. We create resistance into really facing the fear, or apparent fear. So the answer is to move into our fear, facing our resistance, moving into it, watching it dissolve as we start to feel the feelings and then transcend them by owning our own part in the process.
What is holding onto fear costing you?
If you faced your fear and overcame it, what would be available to you?
How would you feel as a result of not being controlled by fear?
Facing our fears and moving through resistance takes courage, will, commitment and willingness. I am here to empower you to know how to regulate yourself when you are in a pickle or hard place in life.
In Loving Service to you,
“Become the observer of all you see – be aware of what is revealed with curiosity. Understand others – this will help you understand yourself even more”. Lucia Nicola Evans